Live/Love/Laugh

I've always been the type of woman who does what she wants, when she wants, how she wants. I may enlist the opinion of others sometimes... But 9 times out of 10 I'm going to do what Shay wants in the end. Has that caused pain sometimes? Yep. Have I made the wrong choice sometimes? Yep. Do I wish that I could go back and change it? Nope. Each mistake was a learning lesson. Each choice was something I will never have to live with a regret of not doing it. In the end my choices have helped me become the woman I am... And she's pretty darn awesome!! Stop worrying about others opinions, what they may say about you, who won't like you because they probably never liked you anyway and that's okay. DO YOU! LIVE LOVE LAUGH! And the people who are really down for you, the ones who truly care for you will ultimately be there. True friends don't leave, they voice their opinion and then support ya to the end. Life is short! Pray first and then get to living! Happy Day loves!

Be happy or Nah....

People have placed the idea of “winning” the argument or being “right” above actually being happy. What we don’t understand is that the win or the being right isn’t worth the emotional pain we’re putting the other person through.  I’d rather be happy than right. I’d would rather be happy than to know that I caused someone I love pain because I didn’t know how to let something go. I think we make things so much more complex than they have to be and that sometimes we look for reasons to not be happy. Maybe it’s because we don’t know how to handle happiness.  Maybe we’re so used to pain and disappointment and past failures that we just aren’t sure if we deserve happiness or if its’ real, so we just make the same bad choices over and over again. Repeating the same cycle over and over. 

 

My prayer is that we truly learn how to communicate our expectations and needs without framing everything as a battle or argument. I think the way a person bring things to a person, the words used to express ourselves, facial expressions and body movements all set the stage for battle. How we say things is just as important as the point we are trying to make. And sometimes the battle isn’t worth it and you have to just let it go. You have to choose if being right is worth your love’s happiness.

 

Just my thoughts on this hump day!! New posts coming soon... 

Wanting Love

It's okay to want love, it's not okay to accept/want love from the wrong person. We sometimes get so focused on the limited positives in a relationship that we completely overlook the magnitude of negatives. If he hits you, that's not love boo. If he insults you and makes you feel less than your worth, that's not love. If he was with Simone last week and yall are "committed" to each other, that's not love boo. Ppl show you their love by their actions. And if they are unable to because of their own issues... That's not YOUR issue. You can't fix everybody! We get so wrapped up in the idea of love and the sporadic good times that we miss our true blessings. Stop holding on to dead weight. You'll feel much lighter!

Trouble don't last always...I promise!

When all hell has broken loose in your life and everything that could go wrong has gone wrong, what do you do? That's what I've been asking myself all year. 2014 has been challenging for me in every way imaginable. I've stressed, I've cried, I've wanted to give up, I've gotten angry at life, I've been depressed because of life, I've felt alone and lonely, I've felt inadequate to do the jobs that God has given me, I mean name an emotion and I guarantee that I've experienced it this year. Now I'm not telling y'all this for pity or sympathy. I'm telling you bc my struggles may be your way of getting through your trial easier. You have to take life one day at a time. You can't focus on the troubles that tomorrow may bring, or the issue that's waiting for you next week. Give today your all. Period. Focus on how you can handle one issue today. When you focus on negative stuff it consumes you. Don't focus on it. For every bad thing that is happening, there are 10 positive things that are happening as well. Pick something positive to direct your energy to. Encourage yourself, pray when you don't feel like it, read your bible when you don't feel like it. Have a real heart to heart with God everyday! He's listening, even when you feel like he isn't. And one day you'll realize why everything that's going crazy in your life right now HAD TO HAPPEN. This course that you are on is not by chance. He's not picking on you, he hasn't forgotten about you. He just needs one of his strongest soldiers to undergo this battle for him. He needs your testimony to save someone else. So while it hurts, praise him anyway. When it seems impossible and never ending, praise him anyway. When you go to sleep with tears in your eyes, praise him anyway. Don't forget about everything that he has already brought you through. This time will be no different. I love you guys! I'm praying for you... #SheisShay

Love

I Love LOVE. I love looking at someone and getting butterflies in my stomach. I love thinking of someone and just the thought of their name brings a smile to my face. I love laying my head on someone's chest listening to their heartbeat and trying to make mine align. I love holding hands as we walk through the mall, or him walking behind me and wrapping his arms around me. I love forehead kisses, and quiet nights at home. Love is wonderful. With the right person. I hate when people say that love hurts, because it doesn't. Its the people we choose to love who hurt us. When you find someone worthy of your love, who loves you back, embrace it! Don't run away scared, you might just be missing out on one of the greatest blessings ever! Love you guys! #SheisShay😘😘

Something a little different

Okay...so you keep finding yourself in the same situations, same circumstances, with the same kind of dead end relationships with folks that act just like the last person you were with... Have you paused to contemplate why? Have you considered that just maybe...it's you? A lot of times we try to make ourselves feel better by sugar coating the situation. We say that God only gives his hardest lessons...to his strongest students, but what if the reason you have to go through this pain is because of YOU? Maybe you should be looking inward to see what needs to be changed, altered, or removed from your life so that you don't have to be taught the same thing over and over again.  Self assessment is a good thing, I promise. Knowing yourself is a good thing, loving yourself is a wonderful thing...and taking responsibility for bad choices...a great thing! Just a thought as I sit here at Starbucks... Happy Saturday Loves! Don't forget to like my YouTube video! 💋💞 Sheis_Shay~

Very First YouTube video...

He said he wrote me a poem....my very first YouTu…: http://youtu.be/L4Vdf0HH9Kg