The Beginning......

WHO AM I??

I’m a 30 year old mom, pretty attractive, with a good job, I own my car and own a home…basically I’m a Woman that has her stuff together! The one thing missing was a man. I stayed single for 3 years trying to get myself "together" after a bad breakup. I was heartbroken, my self worth dropped, and I just wasn't complete. I moved to the A (Atlanta) a year ago and knew when I made the decision to come here, the dating scene would be far from desirable.  I would be competing with beautiful women and beautiful men who all want the same thing I want: a good man, that works, has his shyt together and NOT MARRIED. I don’t think that's asking for too much. God Fearing, Tall, Handsome, Career, less than 2 kids, Loyal, Sane, you know the usual!

WHY AM I WRITING THIS BLOG??

I’ve encountered so many different types of guys in my short year here and had so many crazy yet interesting experiences that I felt compelled to share! Why shouldn’t others be able to be entertained by my unsuccessful attempts at “Love”?

When I made it to the A, a friend of mine told me how much luck a friend of hers was having with an online dating site…that will remain nameless. Your girl is not trying to get sued! I had absolutely nothing to lose so I figured why not. I created a profile, kept it as real as I possibly could and downloaded a few photos. Now when I say messages started pouring in as soon as I hit done….it was ridiculous. I was overwhelmed with the attention I was receiving and had no clue how to sort through the ones that were interesting from the ones that were just downright creepy.

After the first couple of dates, I knew that I couldn’t keep this stuff to myself. I couldn’t make up some of this stuff if I tried. It has taken me forever to get myself motivated enough to share though. But here I am, writing and racking my brain trying to remember these Crazy situations that I’ve found myself in. Now some are more memorable than others…and remember I’m trying to recant 9 months’ of memories. We have a LOT of catching up to do, so that I can get you guys to my present day exploits. Now this is my disclaimer, I can admit that I go on a lot of dates. I can be categorized as a serial dater I suppose, however don’t get it twisted, I have not slept with these men!! Dating is just that…Sharing a meal, movie, etc. And in some instances…we only met up briefly. So now that we’ve got that out of the way… let’s get to it!

FIRST DATE 

It started off kinda grim for your girl, though I had hundreds of messages there were few that held my interest. And most of the messages were either Hi…. Or 10 paragraphs that I’m convinced they just recycled over and over. So while I’m trying to stifle through these messages and find a viable subject to experiment with, I meet a guy. Online again via a chat room. We talked via the chat room for a few days, and he built up the courage to ask for my phone number. Now I hadn’t seen him on cam (which is a device that people use to view each other via video), however I had seen his pictures. He wasn’t a bad looking dude per the pictures. Now technically I KNOW being an online veteran that if a man or woman for that matter doesn’t have a webcam then they are usually ugly or hiding something. But at this point, I just wanted to meet people. And he stayed in Atlanta and he seemed cool enough. So we exchanged numbers. We texted and talked on the phone for a few more days, until he felt comfortable enough to ask me to the movies. The conversation was cool; he had a sense of humor, had a job, and didn’t appear crazy.  I’m in a new place, no friends, very little family so against my better judgment I accepted the invite. We went to the movies, what we saw I have absolutely no idea. And the first thing that I thought of when I saw him, was that his head was monstrously big. Like really really really big. Now I’m a pretty tall woman, 5’7 with no shoes. So I am naturally attracted to tall men. I’d like to look up to the man when we’re standing side by side or hugging. This man was 5’6 maybe. Thankfully I had worn some flat boots just in case we ran into this situation. The date wasn’t bad, I mean we watched the movie and parted ways. Movies definitely aren’t a great first date option, but in this instance I was not complaining. Shallow as it may be, when I look at a man, I instantly envision what our kids would look like. As pretty as I am, I could not make up for what he lacked! So the whole time we’re together in my head I’ve thought of every possible way a child with him would look like. Not to mention I was convinced that everyone else was looking at me, like why is she with this big head dude. Again…I will admit I’m a bit shallow. Don’t judge me!!  I’ll come back to him at a later date though. NO Punanee 4 U!

2ND DATE/OUT OF MY ELEMENT

Okay, so I failed to state above that I’m an African American Woman. And until my move, I’ve only ever dated African American Men. When I made the move to the “A” I decided it was time to broaden my horizons, or I’d be lonely and destitute for the rest of my stay here. So when a (FINE) Caucasian man sent me a message, I figured, Why the Heck not! Now at first I played a little hard to get, there was no exchanging of the numbers immediately, and I was very vague with my answers to his “getting to know” me questions. I was testing him to see just how interested he was. I guess that’s considered playing games huh. Either Or…I did it, and he continued to pursue. We chatted back and forth on the dating site for a few days about absolutely nothing. It baffles me that people can really have conversations about stuff that doesn’t mean anything. Anyhoo, lets get back to the subject at hand, me and my new diverse view on dating. We exchanged numbers and he immediately texted me. He explained via text message, that he was interested in hanging out and getting to know me better. He asked me what my favorite foods were and what types of things I liked to do. I told him Fried chicken (hey I’m a southern girl) and seafood. After our initial conversation, the next day He invited me to Marietta Fish Market. That was a definite plus. He paid attention to what I wanted and picked a really good place for our first date. Point for the White Boy! We both got there at the same time; I pulled up close to the restaurant so I could see him walk up. I had to make sure he looked like his picture. Thankfully he did! We met at the door, hugged and preceded to have dinner. The conversation flowed pretty easily. We talked about family, work, hobbies, dancing, lots of general things. It was an overall real chill date. After we finished our meal, he asked if I wanted to go to a cool bar that he goes to. I took that as he wasn’t ready to leave my company and agreed. Now granted Ladies that are reading this…I do not recommend getting in the car with a complete stranger, but there will be LOTS of things that I do that I do NOT RECOMMEND for others to try. Learn from my mistakes!! I rode with WB to a place in Midtown called MoonDogs. It was a real smokey place with a lot of college kids. We snagged a place at the bar and ordered some drinks. He was protective, pulling my stool closer to him when a guy got close to bumping me. He even gave him a glare. Add another point to the WB! We talked...joked and had a pretty chill time. He even showed me some of his moves. I wasn't really impressed but hey...he had a little rhythm. Now it's suffice to say that I survived the night and he didn't kill me and cut me in little pieces since i'm writing this blog entry right? Needless to say though, at the end of this date...there was NoPunanie4U.

Now I know that this isn't really juicy but it's kinda how my dating in the "A" started out. It was a great "get my feet wet experience"...and our dating didn't end there.

Make sure you come back to read more...it gets better and better!!